"Good habits happen when planned; bad habits on their own."
Today's episode is about CONTROL and understanding four core aspects of control relative to our behaviors.
The first component of control is our THINKING.
Do you think you have the ability to control what you think, most of the time?
With practice, you can absolutely control and direct your thinking most of the time.
That doesn't mean controlling your thinking is easy, but it is possible. In fact, it could be argued that controlling your thinking is the first skill required to guide your life with intention and purpose toward your goals and ideals.
The second aspect of control is relative to your feelings and emotions. The fact is, control over our feelings and emotions comes with maturity and practice – after all, that is emotional maturity.
We know that a 1-year-old has zero control over their feelings and emotions and that an eight-year-old will have far more control over their feelings and emotions.
While control over your feelings and emotions may never be 100%, with practice, it can dramatically increase.
Emotional maturity is critically important as it allows us to respond rather than react.
The third influencer of our behavior is the environment.
Our environment can be anything from the people we hang out with – friends, family co-workers – to the clubs we join. Even the weather, furniture, pictures that surround us, or the clothes we wear constitute our environment.
When it comes to controlling our environment, our influence is limited.
While we can't control the weather, we can elect to stay indoors. Sometimes we can't control where we live, and sometimes we can.
Thus, for purposes of discussion, we'll suggest that control over our environment is 50%.Â
The final aspect of control is relative to our actions and behaviors.
With practice and emotional maturity, we can respond rather than react. We can intentionally develop good habits that support our goals and ideals.
Practicing control over our behavior is precisely what the PARR method of habit development teaches. PARR (Plan, Act, Record & Reassess) is about intentionally practicing behaviors to cultivate the good habits that support our goals and ideals.
Enjoy the episode!
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