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“My great concern is not whether you have failed, but whether you are content with your failure.” ~Abraham Lincoln
Failure Number 9
Lincoln’s quote ☝️ is a powerful and stark reminder that even the greatest among us stumble, fail, and fall flat on their faces.
Given enough time, as Ray Dalio puts it, “There are a whole host of ways that something will get you.” See image below…
This is where Lincoln’s example is proof positive that failure isn’t just a stepping stone to success; it’s an essential ingredient—a requirement.
In the realm of biophysics, there’s a concept known as the principle of maximum error*. It suggests that organisms, including humans, benefit from mistakes. It is through experimentation and failing that we learn, grow, and optimize ourselves.
Thus, Failure Number 9 or 18 or 72 isn’t a cause for despair but rather encouragement.
As long as you have the capacity to choose your response (see prior episode, Stimulus vs Response), and guide your behaviors toward your goals and ideals, you are on the path.
Sometimes when you are in a dark place you may feel you have been buried,
when in fact you have been planted. ~ Christine Caine
Do your best to approach each setback as an opportunity to refine your approach, develop resilience, and discover new strengths.
Responding to failure is largely about finding a hopeful narrative. A H.E.R.O.’s narrative—one that is Hopeful, Empowering, Responsible, and Optimistic—even when the chapter you’re in feels like a tragedy.
Lincoln’s presidency came after at least nine massive failures, including business closures and bankruptcy.
He even lost a couple initial attempts as an elected official. Through it all, Lincoln strengthened his courage, faith, perseverance, and resilience—he kept optimizing himself through the process of maximum error.
Embrace failure and frustration. Learn from it, and use it as fuel as you pursue your ideal future.
Enjoy the show!
~mg
*Side note: The Principle of Maximum Error is allegedly attributed to Sidney Dancoff it’s semi-difficult to find other references. A short blog post here on typepad:
P.S.: This is precisely what the “Behavior Echo-System”/Grunburg Behavior model teaches. 👇 Some things are within your control and some things are not.
Worth reiterating…
GOOD HABITS HAPPEN WHEN PLANNED;
BAD HABITS HAPPEN ON THEIR OWN.
Learn more about the world’s most advanced and modern behavior model
The “Behavior Echo-System”/Grunburg Behavior Model is recognized as a genuine representation of human behavior, framed by two major components: the environment and one's thoughts/stories.
This simplified and groundbreaking framework demonstrates how energy and information flow, vibrate, and reverberate to alter one’s behaviors, habits and skills.
This reverberation creates a perpetual and personal “behavior echo-system.”
This is the first time a behavior model has illustrated how energy and information reverberate - perpetually - to influence human behavior. Everyone "lives" within their own behavior echo-system.
You can share an environment with someone, you cannot share a behavior echo-system with anyone. Your experiences, stored stories, body/DNA and perceptions are unique to you.
For clarity: It’s not an ecosystem; it IS an ECHO-SYSTEM, as in echo - reverberation.
The Behavior Echo-System consists of interconnected components (emotions and feelings are the conduits) between the environment and one’s thinking/stories.
The Behavior Echo-System model helps anyone or organization understand, guide, and troubleshoot their attempts at behavior change, personal transformation, and goal achievement.
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Follow P.A.R.R., PLAN, ACT, RECORD & REASSESS - the habit development framework first published in The Habit Factor® (2010).
PARR provides a repeatable, predictable and practical roadmap for transforming fleeting good intentions into ingrained habits and skills.
**Plan, Act, Record, Reassess**
The PLAN begins with identifying “Target Days” and “Minimum Success Criteria.” (learn more here)
**ACT** upon your plan bridges the gap between intention and action/behavior!
**RECORD** your experiences (Habit Tracking) allows for self-efficacy, introspection and reinforces your intention.
Finally, **REASSESS** your actions/behaviors against your plan allows you to assess your progress and even “raise the bar” for your next 28-day habit tracking period. Following PARR is a proven way to increase Habitstrength™.
By repeating the P.A.R.R. habit tracking process for successive 28-Day tracking periods, the automaticity and habitstrength™ of any habit or skill increases.
Through this iterative, intentional practice approach - any virtue, habit and/or skill can be developed by following P.A.R.R.
Aloha my friend! 🤙
Additional:
Download the free habits-to-goals tracking template to cultivate the habits that support your goals here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates.
Books that may help "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale and "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie.
MG’s Books: EVERYTHING is a F*cking Story, The Pressure Paradox™ & The Habit Factor®
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Failure No. 9