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"Fear is both instinctive and learned—wired for survival, but shaped by experience and environment."
Is fear learned or hardwired?
Yes. It’s both.
Fear is instinctual—wired into our survival.
It’s also learned—shaped by experience, memory, and environment.
A seasoned coach posted after reading a neuroscience study:
“Is fear learned or ingrained?”
I couldn’t help but reply:
“Coach… it’s BOTH!”
And that opens the door for this convo 👇
If fear is innate and trained,
Why do we treat skills and habits like they’re either/or?
Habits vs. Skills? Same Blueprint.
“Bad habits happen on their own; Good habits happen when planned.”
Intentional habits grow like skills—through the same four levels of learning.
1. Unconscious Incompetence
You don’t even know you suck. (Yet.)
2. Conscious Incompetence
You do know—and it stings. But you keep showing up.
3. Conscious Competence
You’ve got it, but it takes mental effort. Progress.
4. Unconscious Competence
It’s automatic. Habit-like. Reflexive. Feels like instinct.
The Viral “Baseball Dad” Moment
Baby in left arm. Beer in his right hand.
Outfielder tosses ball into the stands.
He lets go of the baby…
Not the beer.
Snags the ball barehanded with his left hand.
Catches the baby with his left arm on the way down.
Barely spills his beer.
Instinct-like? You bet.
Skill? 100% Forged via the habit of laying the game.
He didn’t hesitate.
Most people call that instinct.
But really? It was years of trained reflexes, built through intentional practice.
Without that practice? He might’ve flinched. Frozen.
Fear might’ve even jeopardized the baby.
Instead—
Unconscious Competence.
Relaxed. Confident. Focused.
Preparedness displaces panic.
Practice overrides pressure.
That’s the real lesson: Decades of muscle memory—
Intentional reps, delivering in an instant.
The P-A-R-R Cycle
Behavior change isn't magic—it’s a method.
And, it doesn’t come via “HABIT LOOPS”
It comes from intentional planning, practice and refinement.
Plan → Target Days + Minimum Success Criteria
Act → Show up. Run the play.
Record → 1 = Win, 0 = Miss (comments optional but powerful)
Reassess → After 4 weeks: 85%+? Level up.
This is human-centered behavior change.
Rooted in practice.
Beyond Either/Or Thinking
Habits aren’t just loops.
Skills aren’t just talent.
Each can be learned, forged behaviors, crafted with intention.
Over to you:
When did instinct kick in?
When did practice pay off?
👇 Drop your story in the comments.
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When it comes to human behavior, habits operate within a larger behavioral operating system—a Behavior Echo-System™. (Not ecosystem—echo as in reverberation.)
Your behavior is shaped by two powerful forces: your ENVIRONMENT and your THINKING—the stories you tell yourself.
This is why the other two books exist. 👇
This is why the Behavior Echo-System™—a pioneering model in its category—serves not only as a diagnostic tool but also as a prescriptive guide for fostering goal-directed behavior.
Keep on trackin’ ✅
~mg
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The Trilogy: WARNING! DO NOT READ THESE BOOKS!!!
The Habit Factor®: Daily wins for long-term goal momentum.
The Pressure Paradox™: Productivity, Performance & Peace of Mind.
EVERYTHING: The stories you tell yourself heavily influence your behavior.
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GOOD HABITS HAPPEN WHEN PLANNED;
BAD HABITS HAPPEN ON THEIR OWN.
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