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The Guru Dilemma: Separating the Lesson from the Teacher
“A good teacher protects his students from his own influence.” ~ Bruce Lee
This profound quote from Bruce Lee touches on a critical point that many people overlook: the distinction between the lesson and the teacher.
We often expect perfection from those who teach us, assuming that their wisdom and personal lives must be flawless. However, Lee’s insight suggests that a good teacher ensures that their students are not tainted by the teacher’s own mistakes and challenges.
This idea is crucial as we navigate today’s complex landscape of “gurus” and their teachings.
A few quick examples:
Tony Robbins: Known for his powerful seminars and self-help books, Tony Robbins gives extensive advice on relationships. Yet, he has been through at least one divorce and likely a handful of breakups. Does this disqualify him from offering relationship advice? Arguably, his experiences may make him more qualified, as he has learned valuable lessons from his own relationship challenges.
Sadhguru: A spiritual leader who speaks about health and peace of mind, Sadhguru himself has faced significant personal health issues lately, including a brain tumor. Does this diminish his teachings on health? Or does it highlight the reality that even those with profound wisdom face their own battles?
The Wealth Coach: True story: I recently spoke to someone who was asked to invest in a business by a “wealth coach.” Is that ridiculous or does it reflect the complex realities of business management and investment.
A guru’s personal issues may not necessarily invalidate their teachings.
Instead, their challenges and experiences may even enrich their lessons and provide a more realistic perspective.
The Best Guru is (still) YOU.
While it is valuable to learn from others and seek out “Gurus” -noted experts in their field, it’s crucial to remember that the best guru for each person is themselves.
Only you fully understand your unique strengths, weaknesses, and talents. Here are just a few reasons why:
Self-awareness: You are intimately aware of your own challenges and capabilities.
Personalized Growth: You can tailor your learning and growth to fit your specific needs and goals.
Intrinsic Motivation: Your drive to improve comes from within, making it more sustainable.
While gurus may offer invaluable insights and guidance, it is important to critically evaluate their teachings, knowing that, they too, are human.
The ultimate goal is to become your own guru; leverage outside wisdom and trust in your own experiences and intuition.
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This reverberation results in a perpetual “behavior echo-system.”
To be clear, this is not an eco-system. It’s an ECHO SYSTEM - as in, reverberate; it’s a system of component parts that influence your behaviors, habits and skills.
Everyone lives within their own perpetual behavior echo-system.
While you can share an environment with someone, you cannot share your behavior echo-system with anyone; your experiences, (stored stories), and perceptions are unique.
BONUS: How to Intentionally develop habits and skills ON DEMAND.
THIS IS HOW TO INTENTIONALLY CULTIVATE ANY NEW HABIT OR SKILL AT WILL
Follow P.A.R.R., PLAN, ACT, RECORD & REASSESS - the habit development framework first published in The Habit Factor® (2010).
PARR provides a repeatable, predictable and practical roadmap for transforming fleeting good intentions into ingrained habits and skills.
**Plan, Act, Record, Reassess**
The PLAN begins with identifying “Target Days” and “Minimum Success Criteria.” (learn more here)
**ACT** upon your plan bridges the gap between intention and action/behavior!
**RECORD** your experiences (Habit Tracking) allows for self-efficacy, introspection and reinforces your intention.
Finally, **REASSESS** your actions/behaviors against your plan allows you to assess your progress and even “raise the bar” for your next 28-day habit tracking period. Following PARR is a proven way to increase Habitstrength™.
By repeating the P.A.R.R. habit tracking process for successive 28-Day tracking periods, the automaticity and habitstrength™ of any habit or skill increases.
Through this iterative, intentional practice approach - any virtue, habit and/or skill can be developed by following P.A.R.R.
Aloha my friend! 🤙
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Books that may help "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale and "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie.
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The Guru Dilemma