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“No person is free who cannot command themselves.” ~ Pythagoras
Welcome to NOvember
"Who Is In Control?"
This November, H2G - Habits 2 Goals challenges you to ask one crucial question:
Who is in control?
Discipline is a Habit
“Nobody is born disciplined. It’s something you cultivate.”
Discipline is not an inborn trait.
Like any habit, discipline is cultivated through practice, it’s a habit/skill anyone can develop over time. (see Behavior Echo-System 👇)
Self-Mastery and Freedom
True freedom results from self-mastery— to choose one’s response rather than reacting impulsively.
The decision to practice discipline leads to greater freedom and autonomy.
“The choice of discipline and diligence produces freedom."
The Behavior Echo-System
Your behaviors don’t occur in a vacuum—they’re part of your “Behavior Echo-System.” Everyone has their own behavior echo-system – an interconnected set of influencers that includes one’s environment, thoughts (stories), and emotions.
Our ENVIRONMENT and the STORIES we tell ourselves are “the two major factors that shape our behavior over time.”
While emotions play a significant role, humans can pause, reflect, and respond.
While we might be “machines that behave,” with awareness and intention, we can reprogram the machine and our behaviors.
The November Challenge: A "Checkup from the Neck Up"
The November Challenge invites you to abstain from one chosen behavior – or, bad habit – for the month.
Consider it a "checkup from the neck up," a chance to observe who is truly in control—YOU or your HABITS.
As you navigate the challenge, consider Who would be in control if you were on a deserted island.
Frameworks for Behavior Change: P.A.R.R. - The Habit-Building Method and the “4 Ments”
To break any bad habit, use the "Four Ments" (or "Four M's") framework:
Impediment: Create obstacles – create friction – make the undesired habit more difficult.
Environment: Adjust your surroundings to support positive change.
Replacement: Substitute a healthier behavior for the negative one.
Experiment: Treat change as a perpetual trial, allowing room for learning and adaptation.
The P.A.R.R. method (Plan, Act, Record, Reassess) offers a structured approach to habit-building, encouraging “intention action, tracking, and reflection” for sustainable behavior change.
P.A.R.R. leverages the uniquely human capacities of choice, intention, and reflection—abilities, by comparison, the rudimentary “habit loop” ignores.
You do not have to REACT! You are not a rodent. P.A.R.R. helps you leverage these essential human traits.
Go for it! (Now)
Start your own NO vember Challenge - identify one behavior – one bad habit – to abstain from.
It’s time to discover “Who is in control?”
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Call to Action: Take control this NO vember.
Identify one bad habit and apply the Four Ments, use the P.A.R.R. habit-building method to support your progress.
Enjoy the show!
~mg
GOOD HABITS HAPPEN WHEN PLANNED;
BAD HABITS HAPPEN ON THEIR OWN.
*Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”* International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.
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